Bored? Lonely? IDK ... how to enhance my social life....
So while I've been processing this new single life of mine, I'm hitting a bit of a wall. I was with my ex wife for 16 years. She was incredibly anti-social. More than an introvert, she flat out avoided social interaction. It was one of the problems I had with our relationship.
I know I'm more social but I also have this trait where I sort of take on the traits of those close to me in a way. Over the years with her, I got less and less social. Now that I'm on my own, I'm not satisfied with just sitting around the house everyday and could really use a bit more of a social outlet.
Intellectually, I know I'd be most comfortable in a group setting at first where it's sort of "forced platonic" type stuff where there's no heavy pressure on "finding a mate" so to speak. I often say I owe my sex life to the internet since 1996. In truth, that's also my social life. I have been out of the 'in person' social situation for so long and I feel really awkward about meeting new people. But... I am feeling a growing need to push past that awkwardness and broaden my social circle.
Of course, with all the lockdown, just dropping into a bar isn't going to be terribly likely for a while. Plus, I've never gone to a bar without other people who are comfortable in bars. I have some serious impostor complex in bars. I'm not a huge drinker, but I really don't know how to behave in that setting.
My comfort zone is hanging out in chat rooms that eventually turn into a few friendships and possibly even romance. Problem is, I need out of this fucking house once in a while.
I feel like I'm rambling ... and that I already know the answer, at least when lockdowns ease up a bit. Ideally, I'd go to some local concerts or something because music is big for me. It'd be cool to meet someone at a concert and see where things go. Ain't many concerts going on right now, though.
Yeah, I'm rambling. Sorry about that ... I'm not absent social interaction opportunities. They're just either far away or the local ones are all old retired woodworkers. I don't see myself encountering too many casual dating prospects in those circles. Or even just a like-minded friendship with someone at least from an era that I can relate to. Guys in their 70s aren't satisfying this particular itch.
I better shut this stream of consciousness down - i don't think I'm making any sense. If anyone actually understood all this jibberish and has any ideas or advice, I would be most appreciative.